Doomed to Failure Again
So I promised myself that I would spend more time with my friends after one passed away recently. I have tried, but it seems that my friends don’t like me. At least that’s what I assume when I call them several times and never get a return call. I leave messages every time, but they never seem to get back to me.
This has been apparent to me on several occasions. Once, a few months back, I was traveling for work. I was in the hotel lounge having a few drinks when it dawned on me that there were several people I hadn’t spoke to in a few months. After making about 6-8 phone calls and not getting a single person on the other end of the phone I came to the conclusion that my “friends” were ignoring me. How else can you explain not a single person being available to talk at 9 o’clock in the evening on a weeknight?
Have I been a bad friend to everybody? Am I just really annoying and nobody will tell me? If that’s the case, I would love to know so that I can attempt to not be pain in the ass so that I may retain at least a few friendships. It’s not like I gave any of my friends my blog address so that they can see my pain and suffering. I will have to figure it out for myself I guess.
January 30, 2008 at 8:32 pm
I wish I could figure out what gets people to phone back sometimes. I’ve had dead evenings like that, too, and called a number of peeps, trying to get back in touch. Never got a call back. I figured that it was because I was leaving pointless messages, like: “hey, it’s me, just calling to chat, give me a call back when you get a chance.”
Maybe if I had a sense of urgency/specificity it would be different.
Sometimes, when I’ve gotten a call from someone I haven’t heard from in a while and I don’t have anything to say, I’m just satisfied and pleased that they called and were thinking of me (but don’t necessarily phone back).